Not so with Sam—whom she agreed to make a date with after six weeks of emails and hour-long phone calls. "I thought, 'Oh my gosh, this is a real man, not just an email! Lesson learned: Keep expectations low; it can take a while to find a match.Even with a system like e Harmony, whose detailed matching process saved her from "kissing a lot of frogs," you still have to feel that chemistry.And enjoy the fact that you can explore each other's personalities online before meeting in the flesh.Rebecca Braverman & Ryan Olson, Los Angeles Rebecca, now 34, had left New York City for her hometown of Kansas City, Kansas, in her late 20s.
Says Keren, "The lifestyles we all lead these days mean we're always online, so it's more natural.
'" says Tonya, who had been married before (and has a 12-year-old daughter).
Meanwhile, Frank, 41, a lifelong bachelor, had been online for a year on different match-up sites.
"I was much more emotionally needy than I would have been otherwise," admits Crissy.
But in a way, she says, her father's illness made her approach to the relationship more stripped down.