Rules of dating for men
I hated him and I hated her and I hated myself for getting involved with him and expending all that time and energy on him and the relationship.
However, in looking back I can understand exactly why it happened.
If these feelings converge with him meeting a woman who is turned on by him, who does value him, who does appreciate him, who makes him feel like a man well….
MORE: 5 Things Every Woman Needs to Know About Men I’m not saying cheating in this case is okay or acceptable. When my ex cheated on me I was devastated and thought he was the world’s biggest scumbag.
Being young and naive and having no real understanding of what love is except for what I saw in the movies, I thought my love could heal him somehow.
I thought if I loved him enough then he would snap out of his funk and be the man I knew he could be. I didn’t encourage him to get his act together and instead, tried to take care of everything for him.
Maybe a girl will come along who finds what he does sexy, and she appreciates him for the effort and passion he puts into it.
When he’s with her, he gets all this validation and appreciation for the man he is and the mission he’s on.
A man’s most fundamental drive in this world is to feel like a winner.
Cheating usually is the result of an easy opportunity and him feeling like a loser, either in life or in his relationship.
In order to feel valuable and significant again, he may give in to temptation, it doesn’t matter how much he loves his partner.
It’s not that he doesn’t love his partner, she just can no longer connect to him in the way he wants most and when that sort of pure appreciation comes from another source he can’t help but be drawn to it. During the workday, he is on fire with passion and thrives off of meeting the daily challenges of his job.
After killing it all day, he comes home feeling on top of the world and wants to share that energy with his girl. He feels like she doesn’t accept the most important part of his life, the thing that makes him feel effective and worthwhile.