Intellectual types partner dating
But first build your house on a solid foundation, and focus on just a few key things to get a good one.These are just a starting point — and everything that’s important comes afterwards, through commitment and attention and effort. Someone who is both secure and emotionally self-sufficient; who doesn’t struggle with jealousy, clinginess, neediness, overreactions, toxicity, or crippling anxiety, and doesn’t whine, whimper, complain, cling, interrupt, get defensive, seek revenge, make excuses, or demand constant affirmation (and ideally, also doesn’t lie, cheat or steal.) Someone not governed by emotions, who makes decisions level-headed. Someone who takes responsibility for his own emotions, first and foremost, and communicates his needs Someone who deals with everyday setbacks without flailing, follows through on what he says he’ll do, and, for the love of god, takes responsibility for his own mistakes.
Note: a few readers misinterpreted this piece to mean I was still looking for someone. My current partner (arguably already the love of my life) has all three of these things in spades — and makes me ridic happy.This makes it even more important to have someone who can get you back on track and tell you when you are wrong.Studies show that men want to have an honest partner by their side when they look for a long term committed relationship. I’ve dated tall, short, skinny, fat, older, younger, good hair, no hair, and various states of balding. Don’t get me wrong — I definitely have a physical “type” that I go for, but looks don’t matter that much in the long run.