Dating hung huge
She was in a total tizzy until I told her to relax and stop trying to solve relationship problems that haven’t happened yet and instead focus on deciding if she wants to go on a third date… The important thing to realize about men is that they’re very in the moment.
Women can be too, but more often, women can’t help but get a little overzealous when a promising prospect comes into the picture.
Like I said, this sort of pressure can be a huge turn-off and can turn a promising relationship into a nonexistent one real fast.
So take a breath, quiet the chatter in your mind, and focus on enjoying your relationship for what it is, as it is, right here and right now.
Look, I am not casting stones here, I’ve been writing about relationships for years and can’t help but overanalyze situations.
The overanalyzing ties into the jumping too many steps ahead, they’re both essentially rooted in fear.
You have an amazing time together, you talk for hours, things are great except…you’re on two completely different pages! Men are not the boneheads sitcoms would have you believe.
When this happens, you will, of course, start to panic and will cling even tighter, thinking you’d be a fool to let the love of your life slip away!You replay every moment of every interaction with him, keeping a tally of the signs he likes you and signs he doesn’t. The truth is, 90% of relationship problems wouldn’t exist if women would stop obsessing and analyzing and just go with it.The more time you spend thinking and talking about him, the more you’re investing in him and the more hurt you’ll be if the relationship ends.You’re not even official with him yet, but you could never conceive of dating another guy…that would almost be like having an affair!You’re sure this guy is the one, you’re positive of it.