10 tips for dating
I have created a life so full of fun and friends and work and kids and personal fulfillment that finding time for the average guy was uh, well, not so reasonable—thus the ensuing “search” for Joe Squared commenced. Photo overshares to new acquaintances, by the way, come off as a marketing ploy. I did, however, learn a lot about myself and my priorities, about the dating process, about other people and that I have an entire closet full of clothes but nothing to wear. Relationships are about bringing out the best in each other, not the worst, and not the person someone else wants you to be. Ask don’t tell, listen more than you talk, and stop sharing your entire life story in the first hour. People earn the privilege of hearing your personal information and story by earning your trust; save it for the right people. Your actions speak louder than your words, and uh, your selfies.It gives me time to think and do the other things that make me feel like the an autonomous human being. There may be an exception if something crazy happens while I'm sneaking through the Netflix series we are watching together because you're gone.If you don't message me back immediately, I won't flip out on you.I love spending time with you- please understand that first.But as a severely independent woman, alone time is about as vital as oxygen and water.” it’s time to go, no awkward waiting around, 2) meet for coffee or a drink, not dinner, and 3) don’t stand someone up, that’s just bad form (and bad karma). Don’t be an ass but keep it real (translation, do not have a friend call you with a fake emergency.
If need be, lend me an ear for five minutes so I can vent, then I'll pull up my sleeves and slay the dragon all on my own. If you want to go out with your friends, you don't have to ask my permission.You can have a social life outside of myself and my friends, and you can go and do without me glued to your side.You being out just allows me to have the alone time that is vital to my existence.That being said, here are ten tips for the guy who is currently or is looking to date the autonomous young woman. Although I don't like doing it, it's comforting to know that you're there to help me, and you don't mind waiting until I invite you to do so. I keep up with my bills, I think ahead on expenses before I get my paycheck, and I have a step stool to reach the jars in the spice cabinet that I can't reach.I like knowing that I am capable of being self sufficient.